Career Progression Masterclass Talbot Hotel Dublin 24th September .

People are talking about the Career Progression Masterclass I am delivering with Joseph McGuire of Clearsight Communications in the Talbot Hotel Stillorgan Dublin 24th September.

This Masterclass is designed for high impact at every level that can transform your career.

-Manage emotions and take action for positive results.

-Overcome stress and adversity with resilience.

-Build trust by understanding how your behaviours influence others.

--Overcome feelings of Imposter syndrome and start feeling like an expert.

-Learn new skills and thinking methodologies for success

Why book a place ?

You can expand your career prospects and grow your mind ,changing the way you think , the way you process information and the way you manage the assumptions you draw on in your daily life.

This Masterclass is an influential step in keeping you competitive while enhancing your skills in communication  including verbal , listening and body language.

Gain knowledge that will be of great use to you in your current role and to where you hope to go by understanding Belief systems, Mindsets,  Executive Presence and Emotional Intelligence.

If you are HR manager this Masterclass is open to your organisation sending people from your talent grid.

Book now don't miss it.

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Do you work when on holidays to catch up?

What change can you make at the start of  another week.

In 2016 the chartered management institute found the majority of UK managers spent an extra 29 days annually working outside office hours.

Hardly surprising when the average manager is interrupted 56 times a day trying to do their job.

It's not new ,for years my work phone was the same as my personal phone ,as a result I was always on. My phone always rang on holidays and there was always an expectation for it to be answered.

The more the businesses I worked in became lean and agile "the always on" culture grew.

There was little support back then and little understanding if you were on holidays sitting in a corner working out a strategy to improve a service problem  overnight.

The picture attached was a holiday in Portugal when my son was 1, he's having a nap and I'm in a corner working out an issue for a customer, My wife took the picture to remind me at the time that I was always on. I couldn't see it then and it took many years for the penny to drop.

Thankfully some companies today have   an automated  process for routing e- mails back to the originator when staff are on holidays so they do not come back to full inbox .
In 2017 France introduced the right to disconnect after working hours.

The question is what do HR in companies do to identify which managers  and staff  use annual leave to catch up on workload ?

If companies do not set the correct expectation then the individual must do it and coaching can help them raise the issues and set the correct expectation.I am here to help you with that.

Stop sending e mails to your staff at ridiculous hours and your staff and managers will be more productive.

Reach out to me if you need coaching in this area.

TheThinker

Saturday thought for the weekend.

The Thinker by Auguste Rodin

This picture was taken of me many years ago on holiday on a beautiful remote Greek Island.

I had taken off on my own for a while and my wife (my girlfriend at the time ) had come to find me and she found me sitting by the sea in deep contemplation.

As a successful artist she advised me later I looked like the thinker by Auguste Rodin which was why she took the picture.

It is said that Rodin's sculpture represents a man lost in thought , a body with a capacity for action ,wondering ,questioning and searching for meaning. Clearly focused he intently casts his eyes downward.

In truth just before my holiday I had been unsuccessful in getting a promotion it was my second time failing.

The interview feedback was I had done great, I was just unlucky .

However I had more experience and  success in business development than the successful candidate.

I was in one of the most beautiful places in the world yet internally I was in turmoil.I was on holiday yet not present my mind was racing and my imposter syndrome was being fed.

Years later when I decided to leave the company the Regional Manager who did not promote me told me " I'm sorry I did not promote you back then ,you were too good at what you did and it suited me to keep you where you were".

No amount of contemplation on that rock could have brought me to that conclusion,  I just believed i was not good enough.

So this weekend take a moment to believe in yourself , identify anyone who  is holding you back and clarify your purpose and goals.

If you feel the need to invest in coaching for your future then reach out to me ,you will not be disappointed.





Is your boss a Corporate Psychopath? Here’s a look into your future.

Is your boss a corporate psychopath? Why would you even consider such a question?

The issue is if this has crossed your mind then you have most likely worked with and are reporting to such an individual.

Psychopaths account for 1% of the general population and depending on what you read the percentage of psychopaths in the corporate world as CEO’s can be as high as 12% more if you include senior managers reporting to CEO. The general population of prison would have approx 15% of prisoners exhibiting the traits of a psychopath.

In society they are responsible for a disproportionate amount of repetitive crime and violence.

Many psychopaths have identified they can get the benefits from a corporate career than a career of crime and avoid prison.

They are charming, confident, use positive body language and bring people into a sense of false security. Like the prisoners they are unable to learn from experience, the are pathological liars and are masters of manipulative behaviour.

They bully people to get what they want and to get results. Initially their direct reports liked them then the bullying started whereby the corporate psychopath would be ruthless toward their direct reports manipulating them destroying their self confidence with constant humiliation about the standard of work, yelling aggressively in 121 situations and degrading people within their management group settings.

It’s important to understand they do this for several reasons

  1. They like it

  2. They lack basic emotions like fear or distress.

  3. They love to see people squirm and fail

  4. They have no empathy

  5. They have no remorse

  6. The sleep better at night.

  7. I gives them power

  8. I fit’s their overall agenda for progression in their career.

As they deliver results they are adept at managing upward, people above them believe the team is doing great and they win awards, but the psychopath rules with fear and is not close enough to the team to understand issues so bigger issues will arise further down the line.

The confidence is low as a team and as an individual people query their self worth and value to the organisation and they are afraid to speak up as they may not get support.

In time when people leave the psychopath can point to other reasons for staff leaving and can be shown to manage through periods of chaos and uncertainty which of course they have created, and because they can be charming and manipulative they survive.

It’s important to note that psychopaths on average score lower on intelligence tests and may not have done well in school, but their manipulative and charm skills along with being a pathological liar can get them into senior management roles.

Unfortunately in the corporate world when these individuals are called out for bullying it may in a lot of cases be the complainant who would be offered a package to leave the company sign a non disclosure agreement and the corporate psychopath is left to continue his/her reign of terror because they deliver results or the company don’t want to change.

Remember these individuals are toxic, they do not learn from experience, they do not have empathy or remorse, they sleep very well when they destroy individuals. They are willing to sacrafice everything for success.

If you identify being managed by a corporate psychopath and would like some coaching to be able to manage the situation and not have to leave a well paid position then contact me through bjkennomotivation. com.

Managing stress in the workplace are we making progress?

Stress in the workplace looks like progress is slow.

In 2018 a survey in Ireland showed stress levels in workplace doubled in 5 years.

In 2020 a mater private health care study healthy working reported

70% of workers were stressed

9 in 10 reported working while sick

3 in 10 worked against doctors advice.

Irish workers spent less than €2 euro a day on personal health and wellbeing.

2020 was a record year for people feeling stressed in work.

In 2021 reports still showed large workload, tight deadlines, too much pressure, too much responsibility, lack of managerial support, organisational changes, role uncertainty, and violence toward workers as main reason for stress in workplace.

In 2022 I am still coaching people to manage their stress caused by the same reasons.

Reduced moral, increased absenteeism, increased job turnover, in companies is still an issue what are we doing about it.

Who within your firm is really looking at the statistics to support every level of employee from CEO down as every level is suffering stress.

You can buck the trend of low moral and high staff turnover by ensuring you provide support for staff by understanding the emotional demands of looking after customers and supporting each other in work.

I can coach you to manage your stress and stay in a job you love. Contact me through bjkennomotivation.com

Balancing Optimism with Realism

Do you think you are an optimist or a pessimist or maybe even you identify as a realist.

The truth is realism is somewhere as a midpoint between optimism and pessimism.

We know we have about 60000 thoughts a day and many or most of them are negative thoughts. We are too hard on ourselves we judge ourselves we speak to ourselves in our head with negative self talk that we would never dream of saying to anyone we know.

So what can you do to be optimistic yet be realistic?

One thing I would encourage you to do is to be more positive, work on a more realistic perspective on life.

Set realistic targets or goals based on your strengths and dreams and take time out to have an honest assessment of challenges in your life. A positive mindset where you pay attention to the present moment showing gratitude for what you have.

Believe in yourself and do not underestimate challenges so you can learn to manage your frustration and grow your patience.

Look forward to the future and learn that all challenges pass and do not last for ever. Expect the unexpected and have confidence in your abilities to deal with it.

Remember how we view our adversity and stress affects how we respond to it and our ability to cope.

Being a realist, you can sometimes be seen as a pessimist. But you will find that when you are being real you will identify you have all the tools to deal with life and you become a person who can plan well and therefor get on with life.

You can expect a lot from life while knowing good and bad things can happen and as a result you can be optimistic, a realist, and a more resilient happier person than you ever thought you could be.

An Easter message, Believe

A Saturday message

This weekend is an important one for me personally and for my faith where I get to reflect with feelings of sadness and happiness over a 3 day period.

This weekend religious season is not for everyone but my message taken from today's reflection which I had the honour to read to the congregation is...

If you have ever given yourself fully with great enthusiasm to a hope or dream only to have those hopes dashed and your dreams shattered then this is the time to believe and try again.

This is a time when you can believe in yourself with pride and know you can do it.

To dream of love & friendship

To dream of peace & justice

To dream of hope & freedom

To dream of light & life

To dream of health & wholeness

To dream of forgiveness & compassion

is not to dream forlornly.

What ever you believe use this weekend to believe in yourself and a new start.

Irrational beliefs

Thursday evening message for you.

There is going to be pain in any journey in life as you reach for your goal.

Having the correct mindset to deal with all that is thrown at you is key. Stuff will happen how we react is the difference to the stress in our lives.

You can have the career and relationship you dream of if you manage your believe system and work on the irrational beliefs you hold.

Working with a coach like me we can together unwrap these beliefs, explore them and reframe them into more positive beliefs to achieve your vision and goals.

Irrational beliefs can be identified as internal beliefs such as

- There is only one way to do things

- Belief that admitting a mistake is a sign of weakness.

- Pain is a punishment we must endure for being human

- You have been suffering with a problem for a long time, you have identified a solution but are incapable of implementing the solution

-you avoid dealing with the issue because you believe you are not capable to do so.

Working on the beliefs and learning to be more positive you can become better problem solvers and decision makers. You can do this because you can now put the issue into perspective as to its importance and probability of being solved.

Running marathons and ultramarathons I believed that when it hurts so much and you can hardly breath you know you are alive.

What would you do if you could live forever?

What would you do if you knew you could live forever?

Would you set any goals in your life?

The chances are you would put off all the great things you wanted to achieve because you could just do it tomorrow and life would become very boring.

When you realise that we are here on this earth for a limited time, Ireland as an example in 2021 had a life expendency of 82.5 years or approx 4,300 months.

4,300 months, now I challenge you to stop and reflect as you live your life at 100 mph trying to build a career that includes the validation and approval from others and a personal life that is, in truth full of envy and comparison of others a life that overall leaves you exhausted, drained and unfulfilled.

Anything worth striving for in life has some pain along the way if you can understand and believe why you are striving for that ambition then that's a start.

Taking time out to talk to a coach like me can help you reframe your life and ambitions so you can achieve your goals while managing your stress and live a life where you can really experience what is happening in the present and build a future for both your personal life and career that you really want.

Believe in yourself.

Managing upward coaching on the beach with bjkennomotivation.

Saturday delighted to carry out a coaching session with a client on the beach as we walked and talked and took time with a coffee to work on strategies for managing upwards.

You work hard but struggle with some of the feedback you get from your boss. Some bosses can be judged as being unfair and you may feel they make your life difficult regardless what you do.

Part of the problem is all the invisible work you do, the hidden work, like problems you solve with customers each and every day while you save customer relationships, over and above managing your team and meeting your personal objectives.

Building and managing your relationship with your boss is crucial for your future career.

Some steps to move ahead.

- Understand the colour of your boss (see my previous blog)

- Clarify your roles and responsibilities

- Show your boss you can deliver results by communicating progress on work.

- Advise your boss early if things are not going well.

- Ask for feedback and some career advice.

Following these steps will enable you to continue being a top performer yet demonstrate your abilities to work with miminal direction.

As a result your boss will have more time for you and will provide additional coaching and opportunities to help you progress.

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